Accept It...

Today, I'm talking about acceptance.  Acceptance is the way to get what you're after.  If you want success, acceptance is key.  You have to know and accept that your success is possible and already in progress, and you have to accept the success you've already created, which is wherever you are in life right now...because you created it.  If you want love, you have to accept the love that is already being offered to you, because it is there and your acceptance of it will yield you more.  If you want any change in your life, then acceptance of what is of your life this minute is the first step to changing it.  Acceptance is your starting point.  It's what you can do immediately to make the internal adjustment to point you in your new desired direction.

For some of us, the idea of "getting closure" can hold us back.  Some of us need this elusive feeling with regard to some past hurt of one sort or another.  Often the closure we'll come to seek will require the action of an individual or occurrence of some circumstance outside of ourselves.  We'll go back and forth with others, and often even ourselves, hoping or demanding this seemingly abstract conceptual "thing".  It's just an idea.  It's just a feeling, and therefore, it really can only be experienced when we give ourselves permission to feel it.  Acceptance of the painful experience, meaning just the fact that it happened...without giving it any unnecessary or unpleasant meanings and without judging ourselves or those who we dared to let in only to betray us somehow...yes, acceptance, can give us this closure.

No, at first it's not easy.  We want what we want, but how easy is denial?  How does that help us to heal?  Acceptance is the alternative.  With time you'll get better at it and it'll get easier.  Trust it, and see.  Talk to you soon...

The Personal Power Coach

It's Not Your Fault...

It's not your fault...whatever it is that's holding you back from the life you see yourself living.  It's totally not your fault that this obstacle exists (in many if not most cases), but it is your responsibility to fix it and make your life happen.  That, my friend, is a fact.

If you play the victim, you're already disputing this fact, but it's still a fact.  I get it.  Your obstacles are very real to you, I'm aware of this.  You're not the only one who's ever had to face those though.  You think you are, but it's just not so.  It's simple.  If you want a better life, you have to face your life as it is.  You have to accept that you have created this, although mostly not consciously.  It's not the world, it's you.   The sooner you say this out loud to yourself and are not embarrassed, ashamed, or frustrated by it, the sooner your life will start to turn in a direction that you like better.  That much you can trust.

Your life will change as you start to feel more powerful, more in control.  You'll feel that way because you're now working from the place you should have been working all along.  You'll be operating from the "driver seat" of your world...of course, now you're going to have to learn to drive, and then you'll have the power to get out of the woods you've drifted into by blaming whatever it was you were blaming for how your life has turned out so far.  You'll have the power to make better choices, and the understanding to see the better results.  So take the responsibility, because it's yours.  Sure, it'll probably feel scary at first.  That just means you're doing it right, so don't stop.  This is your chance to do something, right now.  Trust it.  Do it.  Talk to you soon...

The Personal Power Coach