Power...

Personal Power: Belief in one's own ability to take effective action or "make progress" is the simplest way to put it

I'm going to start by asking you a question:

Who's the baddest animal in the jungle? Though some will differ most say the lion without much hesitation, and that's a great answer too. When the lion is coming through, those other animals usually clear space as they darn well should. The lion tends to command the respect of most jungle creatures, as not many will dare to square off against him.

That elephant though, when he (or she) walks through, they ALL move out of the way. And, if something did decide to lunge at the elephant, they'd likely just bounce off as the elephant continued on its path. No response to the hostility, except to remain focused on the destination. Now THAT'S badass. If say, a lion, did happen to attack effectively enough to distract the elephant on his path minding his business, it's safe to say that lion would almost instantly regret that move. And then that elephant would be right back on his way.

So, how do you use that? Just choose to believe that you'll get things done and then work in that belief, "walk your path" in other words and let no one and no circumstance deter your focus. That's all for now, thanks for reading. Talk to you soon...

Different...

If you're "different," it's likely that you spend a good deal of time alone--at least your free time. That's because even though many claim to be, most aren't all that different.

It's a type of paradox...perhaps an oxymoron even. We want to be different, but we'd still like to feel like we fit in. If we don't, we might end up alone. And you're right, you will. So we have a dilemma. Love ourselves, choose to be different and spend time in "lonely" solitude or think-say-do what the crowd is doing so they don't avoid us. Nobody wants to be a weirdo, right?

The good news is, you're already a weirdo. Everyone is. The more normal you seem, the weirder you are...yes you. So deal with it, and the alone time that comes along with it. It's good for you. It raises your vibration, which means it makes you better. With a higher vibe, higher vibe people like you will come. That's what you want. You also make the whole better--the group, the tribe, the nation, the planet, the whatever. So do it. Bye...

-The Personal Power Coach

Still waiting?

So, we're half way through 2014, and if you're like some people you might be thinking, "Hey, 2012 was two years ago now and I don't feel any different!"  Why is that?  There was all this hype about how things were "never going to be the same" as what we'd come to understand.  You might still be waiting, if it ever even concerned you at all.  If you feel something like this, the problem could be very simple.

You see, the change from then to now is and always has been, in us... in you.  You are what has changed.  Your spiritual, emotional, mental, and even physical state of being are all now enhanced.  You are much more powerful, much more intelligent, and much more everything you'll ever need to be than you were in times past... and all you have to do is accept and allow it.  Once you've done that, the answer and the question sort of merge.

What I mean is, now that this shift is well underway, you must now decide what you are going to do.  It is so important to learn to use these abilities because you're already using them, whether you know it (and mean to) or not.  What you regularly think about and visualize, make no mistake, you are creating right now.  This has never been more "for real" than in these times.  So, how do you want these amazing changes in your makeup to apply in your life moving forward?  As it's always been, it's up to you.  The difference is, you now have far more power to create your vision than you probably realize.  So, what is this vision of yours?  That, my friend, is the million dollar question.

Talk to you soon...

The Personal Power Coach

Stop Worrying...

No hidden message here.  I mean exactly that.  Either you've done everything you can, or there's something else you need to do for your own satisfaction.  Once you've done all you can do, it's out of your hands.

It's just like in tennis, you hit the ball over the net.  That's all you can do, so it's in your best interest to hit the best shot you know how.  Once the ball has left your racket you no longer have any control over what it does.  Or it's like shooting a basketball.  Once the ball has left your hand the outcome is quite literally out of your hands, so it's best to make sure you shoot it correctly.  Shoot the shot with confidence, instead of worrying about things outside of your own control.

This is how life works, you give your best effort and wait to see what that produces.  If you're not happy with the results from that work, try again but now with what you learned from the last try.  Be confident in your actions and intentions and do not worry, because all that does is sabotage your best work.  It's impossible to do your best work when you have worry on your mind and in your heart.  If you think otherwise, good luck to you.

Lastly, what you focus on expands and manifests, so it's best to picture the outcome you prefer instead of worrying about that thing you don't want to happen.  There's a multitude of reasons for this, but I'll cover two:  One, what you picture guides your efforts toward that outcome so it's more likely that your actions will produce that outcome.  Two, there's still no guarantee that the outcome you hoped not to see won't manifest, but if you remain focused on the positive one then you can see the bad one as just part of the journey to what you're after rather than just giving up.  Sure, maybe you've been knocked down, but this doesn't have to be the end.  If you focus on the positive outcome rather than your worries, then you're more likely to keep pushing until you achieve what you set out to.

That is all, thanks for reading.  Talk to you soon.

The Personal Power Coach

You Deserve What You Want...

Yes, you read that right.  You deserve what you want.  You might think you know this already.  Many of us think we already believe this, and yet still wonder why we don't get what we're after in life over and over.  Sometimes, secretly, we do have an idea of why we don't think we deserve what we want.  We never tell anyone about these doubts though.  It could be guilt about something we can't forgive ourselves for (like not working as hard as we think one should). It could also be something more specific like hurting someone we care about in the past, but honestly it doesn't matter.  We all deserve what we want with regard to our own happiness and circumstances.  That's a fact.

The key is to let go of the idea that happiness is something that needs to be earned.  Happiness is not some possibly unattainable, distant goal nor should it be.  Your happiness is inside you right now, and the circumstances that go with it are waiting to manifest for you.  It's only your own mind that is blocking you from these things.  Your own, doubting, fearful, second guessing, guilt-filled mind.  Those blocks are just tests.  They're there to give you a chance to see that you can be happy anyway, you just have to let those things go.  You just have to give yourself permission to be happy, and to allow that which you want to be yours.  It's simpler than it sounds, but I do understand that does not mean it's easy.  Our minds are stubborn bastards aren't they?  They get in the way of our common sense and our wisdom all the time.  It's a challenge that we've come into existence to face by learning through the experiences this dynamic creates.  Still, just believe you deserve it, and you do.  That is all for now, talk to you soon...

The Personal Power Coach

Speak For Your Anger, Don't Let It Speak For You...

This one is pretty simple.  What I'm saying is, don't allow anger to make you say or do things that aren't an expression of your best self.  It's OK to get angry from time to time.  It is a natural emotional reaction to certain circumstances. It's useful, even helpful to get angry at times.  Anger can give us strength, or courage, or even determination to overcome the adversities we might have to face at different times. It can be a good thing, if we can take the time and exercise the self control to use it properly.

Where it can become problematic is if, instead of staying in control...staying focused on our best actions and responses, we choose to lash out in destructive ways.  This can be damaging to the life we're trying to build--damaging to relationships, to opportunities, and even to ourselves (mentally, emotionally and yes, even physically).  This is what I'm referring to as "letting your anger speak for you."  More than likely, it's not going to lead to anything good or productive.  Often, the damage done isn't worth trying to repair, if it even can be.  And if you can clean it up, the time that takes can set you back and cost you opportunities to come.

Have you ever looked back on how you acted and thought or said, "I only did/said that because I was so angry..."?  If you have, this is what I'm talking about.  I'm betting if you've done this, looking back you probably wish that you hadn't done it.  At the very least I bet you wish that the person or set of circumstances that you give the credit for drawing out that response from you "wouldn't have driven you to do it," right?  If so, then you can understand what I'm saying.  And if you can understand what I'm saying, good.  Perhaps you see the value in what I'm suggesting.  Believe me, I've done it both ways, and I like my new way (speaking for my anger, and not letting it speak for me) much better...much, much better.  Hopefully, what I've learned can help you too.  Talk to you soon.

The Personal Power Coach

Accept It...

Today, I'm talking about acceptance.  Acceptance is the way to get what you're after.  If you want success, acceptance is key.  You have to know and accept that your success is possible and already in progress, and you have to accept the success you've already created, which is wherever you are in life right now...because you created it.  If you want love, you have to accept the love that is already being offered to you, because it is there and your acceptance of it will yield you more.  If you want any change in your life, then acceptance of what is of your life this minute is the first step to changing it.  Acceptance is your starting point.  It's what you can do immediately to make the internal adjustment to point you in your new desired direction.

For some of us, the idea of "getting closure" can hold us back.  Some of us need this elusive feeling with regard to some past hurt of one sort or another.  Often the closure we'll come to seek will require the action of an individual or occurrence of some circumstance outside of ourselves.  We'll go back and forth with others, and often even ourselves, hoping or demanding this seemingly abstract conceptual "thing".  It's just an idea.  It's just a feeling, and therefore, it really can only be experienced when we give ourselves permission to feel it.  Acceptance of the painful experience, meaning just the fact that it happened...without giving it any unnecessary or unpleasant meanings and without judging ourselves or those who we dared to let in only to betray us somehow...yes, acceptance, can give us this closure.

No, at first it's not easy.  We want what we want, but how easy is denial?  How does that help us to heal?  Acceptance is the alternative.  With time you'll get better at it and it'll get easier.  Trust it, and see.  Talk to you soon...

The Personal Power Coach